Money and Life
(Financial Planning Association of Australia)
If things are getting serious with your partner, is merging your finances a natural next step? Learn about different ways to manage money as a couple so you can decide on the right approach for your relationship.
Being open about money is pretty important in a successful relationship. Secret spending and other forms of financial infidelity can become issues serious enough to threaten your whole relationship. Working towards shared financial goals, on the other hand, is almost guaranteed to help both partners feel more positive about a future together.
Getting on the same page with your budget and savings doesn’t have to mean merging your finances completely. This might be an ideal approach for some people, but there are many other ways to share your income and expenses. Here are three alternatives to consider when you’re looking at ways to manage money as a couple.
1. Equality rules
With this approach, both of you contribute the exact same amount to your shared expenses – like the rent and bills for your home, groceries and your car if you use the same one. You’ll keep the rest of your income to spend on yourself, regardless of who earns more.
This is a pretty simple way to run things and might suit you best if you’re just moving in together or in the early stages of a relationship. All you’ll need to do is set up a joint bank account for your weekly or monthly contribution, set up direct debits to pay regular outgoings and each have a debit card for food shopping and other shared costs.
It’s also a great way to go if you see yourselves as equal partners in your relationship. If one partner earns more, they won’t feel like they’re subsidising their other half and the lower-earning partner won’t be losing their sense of independence.
This way of joining-up finances relies on trust. It’s likely neither of you will have the time or interest to take a microscope to bank statements just to check that all spending from your joint account is for legitimate, shared expenses.
It definitely helps if neither of you have big debts to manage and are in the habit of living within your means. It’s a bit much to expect a partner to share the burden of repaying debts you ran up before getting together. But on the other hand, you could end up feeling like you’re missing out on all the fun if you can’t afford to join in on a night out with friends or pay your share of a weekend away with your beloved. This could also be the case if one of you earns substantially more than the other.
Making it work
If something changes – like one of you losing your job, choosing to go part-time,taking time off to study, travel or both deciding to start a family – it’s important to talk about how you’re going to manage financially. When you’re both prepared to talk about other options, you’ll have a better chance of adapting your approach to sharing, without risking the relationship.
2. Fair shares
This money sharing system is similar, but instead of making the same contribution to the household budget, each half of a couple base their share on what they earn. So if you’re on an annual salary of $40k and your partner earns $80k, they’ll put twice as much towards your shared expenses.
Budgeting on the basis of ability to pay can bring you the advantage of sharing a better lifestyle as a couple. When one partner is contributing more to a mortgage or holiday because they can afford it, you both get to enjoy living in the home and having the experiences you really want.
As a middle-ground method for money management, this approach can work well for many couples. You both benefit